As part of the VERA project, which focuses on preventing situations of violence and fostering safer relationships among young people, we recently conducted interviews with family members, youth with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), and professionals working in this field. These conversations have provided valuable insights that will guide the next phases of our work.

From the voices of youth with ASD, key messages emerged around the centrality of trust without pressure, open communication, and respect for personal space. They highlighted the importance of being able to express themselves authentically, without fear of judgment. Clear boundaries were emphasized, including the right to change one’s mind and the need for those around them to recognize signs of discomfort. Youth with ASD also pointed out the risks posed by confusing or pressuring behaviours, such as invasion of privacy or broken agreements, while proposing strategies like written commitments or explicitly asking for space as protective tools.

Professionals brought attention to systemic gaps in current approaches to sexuality, relationships, and autonomy for young people with ASD. They stressed that current practices are fragmented and too often shaped by taboos rather than proactive, inclusive education. Testimonies underscored the risks of infantilisation and the urgency of creating adapted resources that integrate real-life contexts such as dating, social media, and community participation. Professionals also recognised the importance of including autistic perspectives in the design of these resources.

These findings reaffirm VERA’s mission: to co-create tools and practices that empower young people, respect diversity, and promote safer, healthier relationships for all.